Owning My Past, Embracing Change
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Over the past few years, I’ve embarked on a deeply personal journey—one that has taught me more about myself than I ever imagined. It’s a journey that has been both painful and transformative, and today, I want to share a part of that story with you.
Two years ago, I was involved in a family domestic issue that profoundly impacted my life. I was arrested following an incident involving my ex-wife and daughter. However, it’s important to note that I was not charged with a crime. This experience was still a significant wake-up call—one that forced me to confront my actions and take a hard look at who I was and who I wanted to become.
This incident was a one-time event, but its repercussions have been long-lasting. I want to make it clear that I do not condone violence against women and girls in any form. My actions on that day were wrong, and I’ve spent the time since then doing everything I can to better myself, to understand what led to that moment, and to ensure that it never happens again. I’ve completed various courses, listened to countless podcasts, and immersed myself in learning about domestic abuse and personal growth. It hasn’t been an easy path, but it has been necessary.
Since then, my ex-wife and I have decided to separate. Although we’re no longer together as a couple, we’ve managed to maintain a strong friendship and work together to co-parent our children in the way that every child deserves. Her understanding and commitment to our family have been crucial in helping me navigate through this period of my life. Without her support and willingness to co-parent effectively, I’m not sure I would have made it through.
I have not spoken about this publicly until now. Partly, this was out of respect for my ex-wife, who has made it clear that she doesn’t want to relive the trauma of that day. But I’ve also struggled with the fear of judgment, of how others might see me once they know this part of my story. However, I now realise that staying silent isn’t helping anyone—not me, not my family, and not the people I’m trying to support through X-4RCE.
In my role as Luton’s Deadpool, I’ve doubled down on my efforts to give back to the community. I’ve thrown myself into charity work, using every opportunity to make a positive impact. I believe that people can change. I am proof of that. We all make mistakes, and some of those mistakes have serious consequences. What matters is how we respond, how we take responsibility, and how we use our experiences to grow.
I’m sharing this now because it’s important for me to own my past and be transparent about the journey I’ve been on. I know that some people have spread misinformation about what happened, exaggerating details and creating a narrative that isn’t true. By speaking out, I want to set the record straight and show that it’s possible to move forward, even after a difficult experience.
X-4RCE exists because I’ve seen firsthand how challenging life can be, especially when you don’t have the right support. I’m committed to helping others who are struggling, to offering them the empathy and understanding that I needed during my darkest times. I’ve changed, and I want to use that change to inspire others, to show that there is a way forward, no matter how tough things may seem.
This isn’t just about redemption; it’s about accountability, growth, and the belief that we can all be better. It’s about turning a painful experience into a source of strength and using that strength to help others.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope that my story can encourage others to seek help, to be open about their struggles, and to believe in the possibility of change.